It’s hard being a grown up sometimes especially when it feels natural to spit out our dummy and throw a mini hissy fit.
Let me ask you a question, ‘ would you trust or even deal with someone that will fall down under a bit of stress?’ Maybe you would but eventually repeated bad behaviour can make it difficult for you to take them seriously.
But what about our own state management, I’m talking about anger, frustration, arousal, and so on?
I used to think my own misgivings regarding having no control of my own state were on the whole something that others just accepted.
People might accept us for being a bit hot headed, moody or impatient but does that behaviour inspire them to value us?
Once I realised these mental blips are visible and remembered by our family, friends bosses and customers. I started a process of becoming aware of triggers that changed my state.
To manage our own thinking requires work, watching for the triggers, acknowledged human weakness such as judgment or prejudice need deep introspection and sometimes professional help from a counsellor or psychotherapist. Maybe you just realise that your state of mind is a result of your own stinking thinking and decide to change it.
How liberating to establish within my own understanding what was previously an unmanaged and unexplained impulse or outburst in relation to my state of mind changing for the worse.
I did the work and continue to watch my thoughts daily because if I can’t manage my state of mind… I will lose.
T Fit 40 plus 